I found myself in a conversation with the wife, and I recited (and meant) MWD's response from the 3:29 mark of the video. She got choked up when I said that to her.
Originally Posted By: JRG
and you are "leaving the light on" (like Motel 6) for her in case she decides that she is ready to come home and begin to talk things out. It will also show her that you care enough about the relationship to invest time in counseling, reading, and self reflection, and you are willing to make changes for the future. It's possible that these might be sticking points for her. Her knowing how you are currently making changes might be the start of the "heat" she's looking for to melt away the ice that has formed between you. One e-mail from you could make a big difference in how she is interpreting things. Just some food for thought...
You had me up until this point.... You need to make those changes (and do those things), but do them for YOU. If she asks about them or notices (and she will), only then elaborate, but leave some mystery to it.
I asked if W would pick our child up from school and I could get him at 6:00pm, when she asked why? I said I had an appointment (I didn't elaborate), after doing this for 2 weeks, she came out and asked me what I was doing.... I then told her I was seeing a counselor, and left some mystery about it.
IMHO, As far as sending an e-mail with changes you are "planning" to make.... that reeks of chasing.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
