Still Struggling and need help #4

[CharlieBrown]

Went really well. I have also been focused on some GAL stuff last couple days, so sorry for the delayed response.

We talked about her decision on FB, both friending me and deleting tat-boy, and I was really proud of her. She said "it shouldn't have been a hard decision and it became one." When we talked about tat-boy, I brought it up in a way that she wouldn't know I talked to MC about him before and MC followed that. I said I never suspected a PA, but that I was concerned W was becoming obsessed, it was interfering with our recovery, and that she was creating fertile ground for something worse to happen. He said he that is a valid concern, he sees it all the time and "it is like when you aren't hungry, walk into a kitchen and say, wow, this smells really good, maybe I AM hungry..." She talked about how well things were going for her now and that she isn't sure that she even wants to move anymore.

Then MC said "what about sex?" and drove down that road. To her credit, W talked about how different we were on this and didn't try to deny it. When we talked about my frustrations for years in our M (see my SSM posts from several years ago) she even said I had definitely compromised a lot more than she did and understood how that wasn't fair. MC did a great job leading this discussion and I felt like we were just getting going on him understanding us, we will likely come back to it next week. He gave us an exercise that even I think is dumb, so as much as I want to stick to the program, this one is going to be tough.

Yesterday I took S12, his best friend, and his best friend's dad to Mall of America. His friend is moving and yesterday was the day movers packed the house, and I promised S12 that I would take them to an amusement park before he moved. Due to weather, they rode the rides indoors at MOA and the two dad shopped. After we met for late lunch at Bubba Gump. Fun day and good spending time with S12. Brought home a large bag of swimsuits from Athleta for W to try on. She had been meaning to order from a certain women's store and didn't get to it, so this was a way to bring the store to her. She was very excited and had fun (as did I) trying them on for me. She even found one that works!

Last night after our weather cleared up she made a point of having me join her for a late walk with our dog. That is always a highlight for me and that time together has been important during this journey.

Just got to work after volunteering at D9's school for their year-end carnival. I haven't ever volunteerd there so this was important to me. Since BD I have realized that I not only needed to improve as a husband, but as a father. D9 lit up when her group came by my game station, I know it meant a lot to her.

Gotta get to work...

CB