What is the benefit of my current "let her handle the D" attitude? She has filed, so the clock is ticking. I thought that the 60 days wait didn't start until I was served. I've found that that is not correct, so now I feel like I need to educate her about the process. I feel an urge to urge her to serve me and set up a mediator appointment. I feel like planning to meet her to talk, since she has been too scattered and skittish to meet with me despite several times saying she wants to. She is more ok with this limbo than I am because she feels no hesitance to continue her affair. Half of me wants to hold the attitude, "this was OUR marriage, but this is HER divorce." But I'm getting worried about how her mismanagement is going to affect me negatively. Some of this I understand I'm not having a very good attitude about. But please help me as I try to untangle the mess in my head and my sitch. Any advice?
