Here are some of the things that really and truly worked for me in terms of abating my anger and negative feelings.
1. Listening to audiotapes on Buddhism and compassion. The fundamental teachings of Buddhism are chock full of ways to develop alternate views to anger and a lack of forgiveness and other negative emotions. I am not a Buddhist nor do I play one on TV but the thoughts in these tapes hold universal appeal.
My two favorites are:
Your Buddha Nature by Jack Kornfield Awakening Compassion by Pema Chodron
2. Meditating -- I have to say that developing a daily meditation practice has saved my mind Just 10 minutes a day regularly (that's the key!) has really helped me quiet my mind...which can help you be an observer (as opposed to a reacter!) when your emotions get out of hand.
I'd highly recommend the Vipassana Meditation that you can download for free from:
3. Exercise -- Keeping myself exercising and eating right just works for me to stay upbeat and positive.
4. Getting the feelings out in a journal -- In the early days of my sitch I wrote some unbelievably venomous entries in my journal...I created horrible scenarios where really, really bad things happened to ow. I called her and my h every single name in the book ON PAPER. This period didn't last long but it was beneficial.
5. Working on Forgiveness -- I've read quite a few books on it and recently went to a seminar about it. if you go to my thread the first few posts are exercises around Forgiveness.
6. Time.
7. Being kind to myself. It's ok to be angry and hurt and a thousand other things. As long as you're not wallowing in it or using it to harm others...I think it's expected that you WILL feel badly sometimes.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Just 10 minutes a day regularly (that's the key!) has really helped me quiet my mind...which can help you be an observer (as opposed to a reacter!) when your emotions get out of hand.
