I think your responses were fine.

Originally Posted By: Negril72
When/how do I express to her that I forgive her for the affair?


I would say definitely not yet. I have two questions about this.
1. Has she apologized?
2. Has she asked for forgiveness?

If the answers here are "no", then its not time yet.

Be careful at your reunion. It sounds like you might have some expectations bubbling up. This is just a dog visit, not a R talk. Keep it light, short and sweet. Leave before you want to, and definitely before she wants you to.

Keep your composure, show off your 180's and GALs as best you can. Listen to her, empathize and express confidence in her. (Google "empathic listening" if you get a chance, it will give you some great ideas.)

Good luck Negril smile

Let us know how it goes!

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.