Your approach makes sense, especially about being cautious. I understand it's pretty common to get caught up in the frenzy of D and then feel a moment of relief (could explain the lunch invitation) which is then followed by regret (may be the reason for sudden interest in the family). My attorney told me that many people who initiated the D seek reconciliation, even after it's finalized. Think about it, life with OP isn't real until they settle into a normal routine. That really can't happen until the D is final. There are no longer distractions and the euphoria of the new, sometimes secret R, starts wearing off. So, is the grass really greener? I don't know - just a thought. I'll be curious to hear how this unfolds.
