What would your H say if you just asked for "time"? If you told him you aren't ready yet, that you'd like 6 months (or whatever time frame) to think/accept/process/decide. You may both be in different "places" after some time has passed.
I don't think your H, or most of the WASs I've read about, can be "honest" right now. Not to themselves, and certainly not to their spouses. Kind of like expecting a fish to sing.
I hear, and feel, your anger and sense of betrayal. The overwhelming sense of "its not fair!". And you are so very right. This is all hurtful and very unfair. But that is just where we all are right now and one of the best ways to deal with this new unfair and hurtful reality is to accept it. Not agree with it, or like it, or give in to it, but accept that the rules of the game have been changed. Then decide if you still want to keep playing.
Your GAL's and 180's sound great! I'm glad you're getting a weekend away - and that your kids will get some "dad" time.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
and one of the best ways to deal with this new unfair and hurtful reality is to accept it. Not agree with it, or like it, or give in to it, but accept that the rules of the game have been changed. Then decide if you still want to keep playing.
