I too tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Learning to truly feel positive and happy about myself and my life (with or without H) has been a true exercise in patience and control. My H has been in and out 4x now. I have given ultimatums, gotten needy, and not given him space when he really needed it. This time is different. He too is still at home right now, but showing his all too familiar pattern of bolting. I am continuing to be supportive without pressuring and loving without smoothering. If you do the opposite of what they expect, you will be surprised at the results. Just lst night H started to really push my buttons (see my thread) and old me would have BLOWN UP. I made up my mind that I would not be affected and I wasn't. Eventually H loosened up and had a great time too. Hang in there! P
