Hi, PM,
Thanks for checking in on my thread last weekend.

I think you are showing some excellent growth. I do agree w Spartan that trying to stay "in love" is different than still loving your W. And his definition of "in love" is spot on w mine.

Therefore, I am no longer "in love" w my H. BUT, I do still love him and I don't think I have control over my love for him. I love him unconditionally.

But, I think in order to move forward it is helpful to take the focus off of your feelings for your W altogether. It doesn't mean those feeling don't exist, it is that they need to leave the forefront of your mind so you can focus on yourself.

Take care of you!

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.