I realize me not wanting to do things with her was part of the cause.Yes it is her personality that just kept getting worse.She makes friends quickly then just as quickly will not speak to them for some reason.There are people even her family she has not spoken to for years.Don't get me wrong she can be the nicest caring person.But if she does not agree with you she turns angry fast.I think this caused a lot of problems with her keeping a job.She has not kept a job for more than a few months all the while we have been married.I am not blaming her I am trying to figure out why I started not wanting to be with her.Honestly I think she needs help.As far as an affair I am not sure what you mean.She has said to mean that she wants to date again.It just feels like she is trying to really be mean to me.She knows that hurts me.Right now I actually wish she would move out.I can,t take this much longer.