first time(&last) & still need help

[albamarie]

I don't know what to say Nero, no his absence is not flattering! But, I don't think he finds you awful, it's about him, don't internalize what he's doing, he's doing for himself, you don't factor into that part of his life! Hurts like hell, but this is why he's in MLC, he's doing for himself and expecting you to wait as well!

I've learned that they can do whatever they want and it really doesn't have anything to do with how they feel about us, they just buried us deep enough to not concern themselves. I think we are the safe, comfortable, home to retreat to, the light house if you will.

Only you can put a hurried end to this, he's going to take all the time HE needs, and it's up to you to decide when your done. If its on his time, ok, be strong, STAND, pray, but take care of yourself as well, like your doing! If your time comes first, ok, be prepared, take your step forward!

There is not right or wrong! I read other sites as well, you/we are so not alone! It is absolutely amazing how many this is happening to! The stories make me put my iPad down and shake my head! Nero, people just break and turn away, all the while knowing (most of them) that's it's crazy!

Honestly, reading these stories shows me just how much worse this could be! Lost homes, babies, death, drugs, aids, a lady I know her H has been homeless for 15yrs now! My uncle did this ( graduate of DePaul University) he left his home, W, kids, 26 yrs and going! My best friends H got all handsome, had an A, had a whore, decided he Ls his family, she took him back, he turned the garage into a hangout w heat/air, tv, bong, and there he stays every free minute he has!

I know we cannot compare or judge others, nor does it or should it make us feel any better, but at least we are learning by coming here, sharing and working through! Any ounce of pain is still pain, it's how are we going to deal with the fall out that matters!

I don't like when you put yourself down because of his actions! They are not a reflection of you! You coming to this site, seeking answers or, just to not be alone shows you are a fighter and a remarkable person! You are giving him someone he'd be crazy to leave! He hasn't left! Read, you will see what " being left" can really look like!

Not to take away from what you feel, or I in any way, it's just as real to our sitch!

I pray God does see and is carrying us through these hard times! That's all I got!

Nero, Sue....you have a beautiful soul, it comes through your writing, believe it!

<3 dm