He kept insisting that they tell him when they were playing sport on the weekend so that he could attend.
S14 said he didn't want XH to go. XH said it wasn't up to S14, and he'd be going.
We're now in a bind.
Want to reinforce the "nice' XH, but don't want to facilitate his cake-eating.
Any suggestions, anyone, as to how to proceed.
I have been NC for about 4 weeks prior to this.
What we really want to say is: XH, if you want to be part of our lives, ditch OW and you can come and do things with us. But it's too embarrassing and hurtful for us otherwise.
This is not just my view, the kids have said that they feel this way.
But this is an ultimatum. It's not going to help matters at all. Unclear as to how to go forward without him taking advantage of us again.
One dinner does not give him a guest pass to our lives.
And yet, it might be a step in the right direction. Don't want to squelch any good intentions he has either.
