No, I am not accepting that! There were many wonderful years between his ML C.He's not a horrible man, he is a very screwed up man. As a Christian, I find the good in everyone. And yes, I do take responsibility for enabling him. I really loved this man and fought for our marriage for a long time. At this point, I am trying to heal from my Mother dying, my kids father dying, losing my ex, and losing my career. Its been an extremely hard year. Kee