M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
I feel like sending this email, but instead I'm gonna post it here. Kind of like writing it and tearing it up. That way you can all help remind how stupid it would be to send. Thanks:)
W, I tried to just let all of this go last night. But I can't help but think about where things are. I really just don't get it. You constantly say "I don't know", but to me you do know. It's why you are in Georgia and not here. The first opportunity you had a free weekend you immediately go there. To me that says you do know. Now what I can't figure out is why? Why you put yourself in a position like this. You already said that you were "first" then Jenny came along. So what does that tell you? I mean seriously, think about that. You really need to look inward and work on yourself for you and you need to be alone. You seem to have to be in a relationship and have to have someone. That is not healthy. W I do care about you. I may not have "feelings" for you, but I will always care for you and want you to be happy. Not all was bad in our marriage. There were a lot of very special things that I will always remember. And they will always hold a place in me. I'm telling you this stuff because I have come to the conclusion that I can not work on anything with you or be around you until you fix you. You have to do this and with me or OM or any other guy it's not going to be for you. I am getting out of the way. There is no need to tell be what you are doing or not doing when you return. As far as I am concerned you have made your choice already by leaving. If there is anything I can do to help you better yourself please let me know. Once again I ask that you respect my wishes and please only discuss things concerning som with me. I know you are upset that we got to this point. And I apologize and take responsibility for the things I did and failed to do to get us here. But you have made choices and done things as well and I will not be responsible for your decisions. I know you are hurting inside and neither of intended for our family to be broken up. But you need to do what makes you happy. Sincerely, Cbtdad
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Lol. Yes just posting makes me feel better. Already deleted the draft from my email. Haha
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Just got to the beach after 4 hour drive. Me and the son till Sunday. This is going to be so awesome. Building sand castles, swimming, searching for crabs at night. This is something I've been wanting to do for 6 months since I started making changes in my life. W and I use to go to the beach quite a bit. Her family has a couple of places we could always use. Well I would tend to drink and be selfish and not spend time with son. I look back at it now and it's been bothering me so much. Can't wait for the next couple days to replace those bad memories I have with great ones!
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
Son and I are having an awesome time so far. Taking a little lunch break. Only thing that is a little bittersweet is watching all the families together. It's tough seeing when that's what I want. W did text this morning just to say make sure he doesn't get burnt and tell him I love him. I replied, "K. We are already having so much fun. Only downfall is he keeps asking for you. It is what it is. Later" She said, "sorry. That [censored]"
I didn't reply after that She makes me angry at times, but I have to let that go
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
No she doesn't make you feel angry. You feel anger based on her words and actions. It is impossible for her to make you feel anything just as it is impossible for you to make her feel anything.
I sometimes feel anger towards my wife based on her actions are you doing the right thing and letting it go. It will do nothing but create an adversarial atmosphere.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
