DBing, GALing and living oh my!

[cbtdad]

I feel like sending this email, but instead I'm gonna post it here. Kind of like writing it and tearing it up. That way you can all help remind how stupid it would be to send. Thanks:)

W,
I tried to just let all of this go last night. But I can't help but think about where things are. I really just don't get it. You constantly say "I don't know", but to me you do know. It's why you are in Georgia and not here. The first opportunity you had a free weekend you immediately go there. To me that says you do know.
Now what I can't figure out is why? Why you put yourself in a position like this. You already said that you were "first" then Jenny came along. So what does that tell you? I mean seriously, think about that.
You really need to look inward and work on yourself for you and you need to be alone. You seem to have to be in a relationship and have to have someone. That is not healthy.
W I do care about you. I may not have "feelings" for you, but I will always care for you and want you to be happy. Not all was bad in our marriage. There were a lot of very special things that I will always remember. And they will always hold a place in me.
I'm telling you this stuff because I have come to the conclusion that I can not work on anything with you or be around you until you fix you. You have to do this and with me or OM or any other guy it's not going to be for you. I am getting out of the way. There is no need to tell be what you are doing or not doing when you return. As far as I am concerned you have made your choice already by leaving.
If there is anything I can do to help you better yourself please let me know. Once again I ask that you respect my wishes and please only discuss things concerning som with me.
I know you are upset that we got to this point. And I apologize and take responsibility for the things I did and failed to do to get us here. But you have made choices and done things as well and I will not be responsible for your decisions. I know you are hurting inside and neither of intended for our family to be broken up. But you need to do what makes you happy.
Sincerely, Cbtdad