I've said it before and I'll say it again, sit quietly and the answers will fall into your lap when yo least expect them. If you don't show any interest in those comments or what he's doing, he will tell you because they can't keep stuff to themselves for very long. They are worse than children when you tell them to keep a secret. The less you appear interested, the better if you truly want answers.
So, so true in my sitch. The power of STFU...
Like in your sitch, my W has a "secret or two" that she is not revealing, that would explain a lot, and tie up a bunch of loose ends. And like you, I have spent a lot of time trying to imagine what it could be, the worst case scenario, the best case, and everything in between...I think it's natural to want to have some mental prep for whatever "awful" thing it could be, so we can react calmly, appropriately and rationally. I have read in a lot of sitches, That "it" isn't as bad as what we could imagine often....
You're not done with H, neither am I with W...speaks to the nature of approaching unconditional love, doesn't it?
Hang in there!!! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
