Raine, I'm sorry your mind is in a twirl about his comments, i.e., "I can't talk about it" and "I'll tell you at some point". Please don't assume it to be the worse. It could be something very stupid and childish for all you know. Sometimes they say things to keep us roped into their drama. I've said it before and I'll say it again, sit quietly and the answers will fall into your lap when yo least expect them. If you don't show any interest in those comments or what he's doing, he will tell you because they can't keep stuff to themselves for very long. They are worse than children when you tell them to keep a secret. The less you appear interested, the better if you truly want answers.
No, you aren't done. There are still a few chapters left in your life's book that include him because you have children together. You still have that chance for reconnection w/him, but it's going to take some time. His crisis has to play at fully in order for him to get to the other side so that the "new" version of him will appear and be permanent.
Continue moving forward and keep your eye on what you want for you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
