things went south

[BC39]

AS, man its nice to hear from you As of a week ago everything seemed to be going fine....this [censored].

When you say you want to "take" the "power to make the decisions", that sounds like control to me. If changes/ 180's are rekindling your W's interest, then don't revert to old habits now. Keep showing her the changed you. Show her loving patience. Show her you want to work through this as a team, not as someone who wants to tell her what to do and try to control things.

"power" was poor choice of words, "assertive" would have been better. I've just been much more passive than I normally am for a while, which obviously hasn't helped because I'm here.

I revert back to October when she slipped up, I basically told her I needed to take a step back from the marriage and she had "awakening". Its the one time in the last year she responded like that.