wfm, often we will say it may not help OR hurt. Although it CAN chase them further away.
The truth is, it DOES hurt. Not him and not the sitch, BUT YOU.
Because you keep hoping / expecting for a different result. Right now, that's not going to happen. And it hurts you also, by NOT saying anything, because you get frustrated holding it all in.
Everything around the R and him is still hurting you.
