He and I remain in the same house. She lives on the mainland now. I feel like his pretend wife, as he and I still function in our old roles of him doing certain work outside, me doing certain work inside.
He flys out to see her every couple months. I wish the house would sell. I have come to realize this
And of course as time passes my rose colored glasses have come off. I see how he has always been an emotionally detached man, giving me crumbs to live on. And as been explained and is becoming clear, I deserve the whole sandwich!
I am working full time now. I work with wonderful people who seem to care about me. I don't have a man in my life. But they have been seemingly coming out of the woodwork this past few weeks, and I have had a few nice little dates. Just patiently waiting to see if any of those go anywhere.
I really did quit talking to my X unless it was about coordinating a house, kid or grandkid matter. I view him like a ghost. He is around, but of not much use to me. I need want a living breathing man who cares for me and wants me around for something other than ensuring there are things to eat in the house......
Hang in there! And learn to meditate, that was the best thing I did for myself!
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
