In any normal context, I would view your H's comment about "being good" as a stipulation to you going to the wedding with him, as being an attempt at humour. If you could take it as negative, I'd ask "why"? What meaning would YOU put on that, that he may not have intended?
Regarding the MLCer blaming everything on the LBS, that is normal of course. What is really important for a LBS to keep in mind is, most people will understand untruths for what they are and also most people would understand that both parties contributed to the problem, even if those same people are willing to validate the untruths in their desire to "help" the MLCer be "happy". You kids will know the truth, even if you don't defend yourself. And any who believe the untruths, probably do not really know you, anyhow.
Of course, I'm not talking about the things that ARE true, that you'd rather people don't know about or judge you by. Which is back to that whole "shame" thing.
On him not commenting on you looking good, I want to point out that he obviously noticed and chose not to say anything. I don't mean he was withholding a compliment, but he appears to notice you looked "the same" (ie. looked good) as you do when you go out with your friend.
Unless he used to tell you how good you looked, the fact that he did not is not really out of character, is it? It's just something that he doesn't do, that you would like him to... yes / no?
