You know, GM, that is a good question. On the one hand, I do - just by virtue of the fact that we are both trying to work on things and move forward after all of the hell we have been through. Yet on the other, she still refers to a lot of things from the past when we talk about where things are going.....hurts, times when she felt like she wasn't being listened to and so on. I really try to fight the urge to take those things on and sometimes I succeed and others I fail. Notwithstanding, I feel that if I was TRULY forgiven these things would take their permanent place in the past. I don't know how much revisiting is necessary. And, to be honest, sometimes her bringing up the past leads me to respond in kind. Not in an "in your face" manner, but I find myself explaining myself and my actions again.
25 - I am open to getting outside help. And I hope she is, too. However, during one of our talks she said "I just want to 'be'. I want to live where who I am, how I am is OK.....and not have prove anything to anyone or always reads books or see counselors". What do I do with that??
