Still need help here. Met with new therapist yesterday, she's up on db principals and is pro marriage. But I'm getting mixed advice on the whole acknowledging H's unfriending OW situation still - please could use some direct opinions.
She says to not be ruled by fear and addressing/molding new R based on honesty and directness. In relation to unfriending OW, I expressed that I am very appreciative and it seems anti-db to acknowledge OW at all, but I'm so grateful that it also feels insincere to ignore it. IC suggested addressing issue at MC next week, saying something like 'I've felt more trusting to you lately. I noticed you unfriended OW. Did you do that only for dds or a little for me too?'
My reaction was, 'no way!' That's when IC suggested I was allowing fear to prevent honest communication. BUT the other side of the DB dynamic seems that that is attacking, adding pressure, demanding an answer. Or maybe I'm too scared of the answer.
