DBing, GALing and living oh my!

[cbtdad]

Thanks for sharing that WFM.
JP,
I know you can do this. I know you are trying so hard. You have the CHOICE to be a different person. That's what it is. Your past is your past and it can stay there. One day at a time. You are not going to wake up and just be strong an all of your emotions will just be gone. It's going to take work but you will love the outcome. Be friends with your W if you can handle it. If its too toxic for you let it go like WFM says above. I have no problems with the friends part if OM is out of picture, but I see clearly now that I can't if he is. It's not fair to ME! Not about her.
I told my wife yesterday that I am scared silly. In scared to be with her because I'm not sure if things will really be different and that she can change. I'm scared to be without her because we made a commitment, we have a child together, hopes and dreams all of it gone. It's scary either way. I even told her I'm scared to work on things an possibly mess up how well we are getting along right now. Because its been reall good for son. But what's best for son is that we reconcile and have a happy marriage and show him what hard work and loving someone can do.
Man JP! This stuff is so hard. It would be so much easier to give up and move on. But that's not the type of person, father or man I want to be. So I keep working on me everyday. Everyday JP, you can do this'