Husband has one foot out the door!

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Hello, I am new here! Here's my basic info: Married 8 yrs. Together 13 yrs. 3 children under age 6. My husband has one foot out the door, as he states "he no longer loves me, no longer cares for me as he should, the feelings just aren't there".

It started in February of this year when I asked if if he still cared for me, and he told me he is no longer in love with me and hasn't been for approx. 4 years. I was shocked and devastated. He told me he couldn't imagine staying together. We then talked ALOT about everything and decided to do counselling. We did counselling for about 3 months and our relationship started improving in a lot of ways, such as better communication, more respect, less fighting, etc. and we even had some nice dates.

At our last counselling session he told the counsellor things were going good. Then a few days later he was looking confused so I asked him about it. He said he just doesn't have those feelings for me so we should end it. The next day I asked him if he were 100% sure because I was going to start telling people. He said that no he wasn't sure and asked to have a few days to think it over. that is where we are at now. We are still living in the same house, with our 3 young kids, while he is pondering whether to stay with me or separate.

Does anyone have advice on how I should be acting around him, or what kind of things I should be doing? I am starting to feel a lot of anxiety over this, yet trying to remain strong in front of everyone. No one in my life know about this except myself and my husband. I feel telling my family would be a bad idea.