[/quote]I still have hope that your SO will come out of that tunnel back into the fresh air. Have you thought any more about the two opposing views on no contact vs. limited contact? I still lean towards Scout's method of limited contact, maybe a short text. It made more sense to me. But the time has to be right for you.
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Thanks Linda,
I love your optimism! And as to contact, I am really not sure. I need to be ready to possibly open myself up to being rejected again by him. If I could have no expectations, good or bad, that would be great. But in reality, why would we contact someone - anyone - without the expectation that they would reply? Once upon a time, I would have no trouble breaking the standstill. Never could hold a grudge. But this time is different. Although there is a possibility I might get a friendly reply, that does not mean anything. I might get news I don't want to hear or might not get a reply at all.
I want to make sure I am on solid ground before contacting or simply deciding that I am not inclined to open myself up again to be bitten by the dog who is a known biter.
What did he think you two were doing together for the past 18 years? [quote]
He thinks we were friends with benefits, of course.
We've been separated quite a lot for various reasons over the course of our relationship. I always thought that since we survived all of that for so long that our bond had to be strong.
No, apparently it was apathy on his part. Just did not care enough to pursue another relationship. Or so I am told.
I really shouldn't dwell on the negatives. Doing that makes me want to contact him less and less.
