I don't think he feels uncomfortable hugging - it is just not something he wants to spend a lot of time doing. He is not real demonstrative but I would not say it makes him uncomfortable. He comes from a family that hugs each other everytime they meet.
Quote: The rule is, one date a week, one overnight every 3 months, and a one-week vacation with no kids once a year.
We haven't really been alone since we went on vacation last year in April. (That was the first one in several years too! In fact, really the first one other than business trips he took with me.) I think we have had maybe one night alone here at home since then without the kids so a little 3 day trip would not be too much - part of it is he is a semi - tightwad as I am myself! He is looking at taxes and paying off Christmas quickly. We do generally go out together once a week and have for the last year and a half. Tonight I did cook at home but we went to Starbucks for a latte and a lemon square! Does that count as a date? LOL
Quote: You still don't get it, because he has less testosterone, he is more sensitive, and if you put on a medicine that gives him more testosterone he will be less sensitive. So which do you want more??
Does it have to be either/or? Isn't there some sort of happy medium? Last night one of the things we discussed was the importance of this to me. I think it is finally sinking into him that this is very important to me and that the health of our marriage is at stake. As I have said, I have no intention of leaving him - sex or no sex. I love him too much to walk away - but I expect him to love me enough to work on this with me.
Quote: LOVE BANK- You are mistaken, go to the website and read it yourself
I went out and read it. The trick is getting him to read it. He has not even read the SSM that I bought. I have suggested it but he has so far showed no interest in reading it. I am sure that he understands the principle. Most reasonable people should. Lets face it - when you are a jerk to your spouse or others they are not going to feel real friendly towards you - but when you are a pleasant person - a loving person - you can expect people to act positively. To me that is just good common marriage sense.
Thanks for the help - I need all I can get! Neicie
