Quote: When he came home today I kept wrapping my arms around him and hugging him close and kissing him. He didn't push me away but he is not that interested in hugging me back other than a quick hug and he moves away. I guess that is what brings me down. Tears in the eyes right now (sniff sniff)I don't want anyone else - but it would feel so nice to have him make the effort to reach out and touch me and hold me.
Okay, even though I am more sensitive, I still feel uncomfortable hugging, I never know how long to hug. It just does not feel natural. As said elsewhere a habit can change.
Quote: I asked him in the early part of the week if he would like to go on one of those last minute cruises to Mexico. We don't live to far from the port and it would not be hard to arrange. As always he says no - can't get off work, etc. I had said it would be my Valentine to him - I got a nice end of the year bonus - and it was my treat. It made me think of what you said about pressuring him. I don't want him to feel pressured - but on the same token he has told me NOT to quit asking - that right now he needs to be reminded.I have got to where I don't ask - I don't remind him - because the answer is always the same.
DATTING, you are trying to eat the whole mountain in one bite. The rule is, one date a week, one overnight every 3 months, and a one-week vacation with no kids once a year. Work on 1 date a week, and use the http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html The Policy of Joint Agreement.
Quote: ????????????Now you sound like a HD guy, you see the sensitivity comes from lack of testosterone, and that is why I am saying sex or sensitivity . If he gets more test, then he will be less sensitive. ????????????I am certainly glad he is more sensitive because in the past he could be shall we say DIFFICULT….He was very complex and I certainly like this new sensitive person he has become….I have told him that I almost feel like the people in the "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" got him. He looks the same but he doesn't act the same. In some ways it has been great - but in one thing not so great.
You still don’t get it, because he has less testosterone, he is more sensitive, and if you put on a medicine that gives him more testosterone he will be less sensitive. So which do you want more??
Quote: ????????????Neicie, you may be unconsciously pressuring him, have you work on using the LOVE BANK CONCEPT. ???????????? If I am not mistaken (I have read the idea behind it but have not purchased a book) the love bank concept is that you put in "deposits" in your "love bank". I feel that I have deposited tons of $$ in the love bank. …..Should I stop all of the pampering or keep that up? I do it because I want to - I like spoiling him but is that making him feel pressured? Would it be better not to fuss over him? That would be very hard for me to do! Any advice is appreciated.
