My mother is dying. XW wants to be my friend.

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks everyone. Mom seems to be in good spirits. I mentioned the treatments above to her and she told me that she would be open to anything. She has a meeting with her doctor next week to discuss treatment options. She is upbeat. She says that she is fine with whatever the outcome might be.

VERY Sorry to hear about your mom. My mom has rapidly accelerating dementia and they call it the "Long Goodbye." My dad got cancer in his liver and died in 8 weeks, lucid til the end.

I don't know which is easier b/c both sure sukk...very sorry.

The death of a parent is an UNDER RATED event.

For you to even be talking R talk with your EX wife is pretty much some form of denial on your end about what really matters now.

or you are addicted to your target of misery (ie your EX wife...).

But even if you have the world's smoothest R with your mom AND strong faith

I would still focus ONLY ON HER NOW...

As for me, I just don't know. To be honest, sometimes I feel like just throwing in the towel. I mean, I just don't know. Life just seems like one loss after another. I'm tired of losing.

If you were truly GAL you would have a lot of "GAINS" to add in your life's scorecard. You are a healthy employed man in the US of A...go travel to Africa if you need reminding of how lucky you are.

You have dragged on with the whole "woe is me WHY did she leave???" for so long now I have to assume it's a trait of yours.

was that part of why she left but she does not want to tell you that right now?

She MAY feel guilt about leaving. Even if she did it for "the right reasons" it can't feel good to hurt someone.

But she may also want to be easy on you at this time.

Saying "i was bored so I left & then met OM" sounds shallow, but saying "YOU bored me" sounds worse.

Stop asking her why. There is simply NO ANSWER to that question that can help you in any way.

Read that^^ again please...and stop asking her and stop thinking about her or her wedding or putting your sons in terribly awkward, unfair to THEM positions.

Are they allowed to see their mom get married without feeling a dumpload of guilt from you? Can they have fun?

Are you going to GAL that weekend or stay home...waiting...???


The situation with my mom has actually taken some of my energy off of my sitch,

Dear God I should hope so!!! ...


but things still are bothering me. I think it is because her wedding is now just two weeks away. I guess in two weeks, my story here will come to an end and I will be declared the loser.

Your "PMA" needs an overhaul...big time.

Hard to see these types of comments from you at this point.

Are the anti depressants helping at all? My guess is you need an adjustment. No offense meant


She is still bragging all over FB and it bothers me. It shouldn't but it does.


It shouldn't "but it does". When will you see these "events" as CHOICES YOU MAKE b/c that is all they are. You choose to wallow for reasons unknown to me. Get off facebook. There, problem solved...2 and half years and you still here about her there? Man, it would take me 2 weeks...


I know, it has been over 2 and a half years. I just wish everything would just stop. Go ahead, tell me how pathetic I am....I know.

seriously?

Snap out of this, be a decent man and a good son. Go be with your mother!



Lately, I have some really good days, but maybe I'm not as far along as I thought. The anxiety isn't as frequent, but it is twice as bad when I do have it.

I came on here today to vent, but I really don't have much more to say except that mom is doing well, X is doing FABULOUS and I'm just......here.

nothing to add to YOUR situation that you can hear anymore...

But what KML (?) said about cannabis is true. I'm not here preaching "it's party time!!"

but the reality is that it DOES help MS, some cases of Lou Gehrig's disease and yes some forms of cancer. Also some brain tumors.

My h is an MD and wishes the DEA would allow him more leeway as a pain management physician. But it's a bear for him being in a federal facility at the moment.

The latest research will probably lead to it being legal for medical purposes, but do what you can for her now,

or you will feel a lot more like a "loser" than you can imagine. So now,

GO Show up for your mom.