When we go through these stages of getting along so well it gives me hope and makes me wonder why we don't just work on things.
Those are expectations, C. Cant have any right now. Wont work for you. And she can sense that you feel that way. And like you are not hearing her.
I have no doubt based in today that she is definitely confused on what she wants. She even said she is mad at me for changing now. Lol
Yep, that is script. But,in a way, I can see their point, ya know? She cant work on things because she is confused. But, you have a child together and so she wants to be friends.
The thing is that you need to give her space to figure things out. And you have gotten better at it, but you need to really let her alone to deal with her stuff. She is also confused as to whether she wants a family or not. She really is lost and needs to work on herself.
Here is the thing. If she wants to work of herself without being involved with OM then I am ok being "friends" like we have been the last few weeks. If she wants to continue OM though I can't do that. I just can't for me.
Ok, then, if you know she is going to be with him, then you need to keep your boundary. But, C, no waffling back and forth.
She needs space, give it to her. She needs to feel heard. Show her you have. She says she doesnt know what she wants. You keep bringing OM up. She feels like you dont hear her. And round and round you go.
