CeMar: When you talk to your wife do you go into it with the objective of changing her behavior (which you know is pointless) or to just let her in on your feelings (which is what you do with us)? The only way any lasting change came about was when I repeatedly stated my feelings in a non-attacking way to my H. I was relentless. Now, this might not be one of the ways that Michele advises but I absolutely was not going to live in his "It's only sex" world with him.
I leveled with him and I did not try to protect him from my own unhappiness. I was after a better marriage and, in the short term, I had to sacrifice peace in my house. IT WAS WORTH IT.
Action is the only way to go here. Either open the dialogue with her, and keep it open, or set up a joint counseling session, or a meeting with your pastor. SOMETHING. You're not getting any younger.
