I pray that since I went NC, he might begin to look within. Since you have NO control over him, why not just look within YOURSELF and gain enough confidence to want to be treated right by a different man. OR be on your own, yet happy.
This man is bad news. He has told you so and he acts consistent with that. He's a user.
Did you understand my last post to you or get the book I mentioned? Your posts seem all about how to get THIS man back.
My question is, why do you want HIM?
We have been off and on for 13 years, and I know I enabled him to come and go.
What is different now, about you? Seems to me You are merely using a different tactic -- but it's still all about getting him back.
YOU must change YOU. Your choices for the past 13 years don't appear to have been healthy ones, do they?
I do take responsibilty in this relationship
meaning what? Be specific. What do you take responsibility for? Enabling him? Wanting someone who you know is not going to treat you right?
Being co dependent? What is it you feel responsible for?
and am willing to work on me! Who knows if he will?
Work on you and stop caring or noticing if he does. I'm a big supporter of marriages but not at all cost. The price for being married to THIS guy is too high...
And fwiw, I doubt he will ever work on himself. Why would he??
He never has before, and it's worked just fine for HIM...leaving a trail of broken vows and hearts behind him ...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
