I just want security for me and the boys. I don't get why H would get in the way of that. I would think he would want the boys to have a secure life.
Because it gets in the way of HIM having the life HE wants!
STOP thinking that your H is going to be generous or kind or any of that. It's not the WAS M.O. He's probably not going to give you one cent beyond what a judge would order, and if he is offering more right now, I'd take it and be done.
You keep focusing on what you WANT, but that's irrelevant in the legal case. What's relevant is what's standard in your community and by your state's laws.
And much as you want to stay in the house, that may or may not be possible. Don't get stuck on that idea.
