round and around we go

[willbwell]

Had my first coach session today. Felt positive afterwards. Busy day with school stuff, lunch with friends, d's speech therapy...a regular day. Kids haven't heard from H. d did text him tonight and said she missed him...he sent a text back.. see you Fri.
I am going to go out of town on Fri as planned but will come back on Sat instead of Sun. H will stay at house with kids Fri night. I've got a busy day tomorrow which is good! Got my books ready to read for my 3 hr flight.

Now, time again for feedback...

H saw attorney and wants a collaborative D.I said I don't want it. H says he can't give me what I want. He says why should he do something that he doesn't want to do?( stay in the marriage) I say he is asking me to do something I don't want to do...
So....I would like to ask H if we can just stay status quo- Separated. He can see the kids as usual. I think D is a big waste of time and money and solves nothing....
Advice???
PS.I did already say to him that if that is the way he feels, then I won't stand in his way. I didn't twist his arm to marry me, I can't twist his arm to stay, but it is not what I want.