CeMar: Could you address for all of us the questions that Carlotta posed to you on: How clearly have you communicated your hurt and devastation to your wife, and Does she see the problem as clearly as you have communicated it here?
These questions routinely go un-answered by you. I suspect that is because you like to bitch about the situation but you do not like to actually DO anything about it. I also suspect that you don't talk about this subject at all with your wife.
That is really the first step. Venting is all well and good--and believe me, I understand why you do it here instead of at home--but at some point you gotta get it out on the table with her.
