Wendy, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I am overwhelmed with this forum and all of the info and people on it. I've tried to read the basics first (read Divorce Remedy) and then read through more posts. I'm thankful for a place to talk to people going through the same thing and to know that my h isn't special when it comes to the things that come out of his mouth. So you have been living with your xh now for how long since the D or did your house sell and you've moved? Has he softened up a bit since or is he still a confused and disoriented man? OW? I'm sorry for what has happened. Are you doing well and still Dbing?

I'm starting to get my sense of humor back after the BD and all the craziness that I've been living with for nearly a year now. I wish I had found this site earlier, like as soon as he started with his EA with the OW. Oh well, I found it and I'm happy to be here learning not only how to deal with him but to make sure that I survive with my sanity.

I just thought of something. I wonder if after my h moves out and if the gold digging s!^t moves in if I'll be the OW? LOL I can see him now, sneaking away to call me, sending secret emails, making excuses why he needs to come to the house and texting during all hours of the day and night. He is/was so dependent on me that it was almost easy to "do something different" by remaining silent or saying little when he wants to run a thought by me and not responding with anything of substance when he asks what I think he should do about this or that. I just had to take the step of faith and believe that it might make a difference in the way that he looks at me and realize what he'll be missing when he leaves.
I thank God that I have a busy life and don't have time to really think about his antics 24/7. It's tough enough to think about it during the few quiet times that I have.

I also wonder if he'll say anything to the kids. I think he has a fear of doing that and it certainly won't be ME that tells them.

Me:57H:62
M:34T:35
2S,2D (grown nlah)
BD:09/2012 visits M ow
EA/PA?:10/2012
H moves out 06/2013

"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama