She always brings up the fact that if she sees true change in me then maybe down the road we can start dating again.
This is good news! Put it in your heart and save it there, but also get it out of your brain at the moment! You have to pay attention to YOU! Accept that D will come and that you are not M anymore and do it now! I now this is harch words but they are well meant. You need to start working on you! IMHO a statement like this could be the little crack we all hope to see in the walls around our WAWs but do not trust it and do not try to break through yet! Do the work on you and if the crack exits it will become bigger in time! The only thing that can open this totally is W but you can be the tool she needs by becoming the man nobody will leave. So this is what you have to do! Become this man! When you have defined your list and done the advice placed in your thread I would recommend that you read 5LL and then David Cunningham but remember that DB is number 1 - the two others are just tools! Stay with the DBing! Also read up on WAW! Get an understanding of the term. You will find lots of information on WWW.
I know your goal is R but this will only happen if you make yourself attractive and this is not:
Originally Posted By: SIS
Every time i get a text from her its just another reminder that things are definitely not headed in the right direction.
This will make you look sad or even whining – and that is simply one of the most unattractive things you can show W. She will see it so stop! Accept the D! It was a text about “dropping her off of our auto insurance” – if a friend send you a text like this how would you react! This reaction is what you want to show her! Nothing else!
First part of this will make you attractive
Originally Posted By: SIS
I will pull through this and become a stronger person, but right now its very hard to see the end.
Second part is a fact! But remember somebody did it and it can be done!
Originally Posted By: SIS
I hope for that day but am also apprehensive at the same time.
Keep the hope – and keep it high!
FTT
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
