Thank you for your support. and replies. I know I need to GAL and have done so to a point but then somehow i put the car in reverse and now im stuck. ..
I think this move may be good it is just moving to my dads is not the good part... there is no way to tell anyone here how it is at my dads. you would just have to be there and hve lived there to see what i mean. but it is temp and I will not be there long I can not. But going to save lost of money if i still have a job after IBM does there cuts.
the one major thing that i cling onto is this and i need to find a way out of it.
I was told by her Bro that she turned gay/bi/whatever. I think she is living with her long time GF that is gay. But i just cant believe that she may have turned. Guessing and 3 party info just does not cut it. Also her mom says to me that I know my daughter and dont think she is that way.
there is one mental block there for me!! I need or want to have her tell me.
the one major thing that i cling onto is this and i need to find a way out of it.
I was told by her Bro that she turned gay/bi/whatever. I think she is living with her long time GF that is gay. But i just cant believe that she may have turned. Guessing and 3 party info just does not cut it. Also her mom says to me that I know my daughter and dont think she is that way.
there is one mental block there for me!! I need or want to have her tell me.
I believe that people are sexual creatures, well I know it.
I also believe that people who are bisexual or prefer the same sex are no different than those who prefer that opposite sex, it is just who we are.
I believe that people find themselves in different situations in their lives and try different things that they would not normally try.
I understand wanting to know, but at this point does it really matter?
If she was with another woman, another man, another woman and man, the point is that it is happening because something was missing.
All you can do is focus on you and making you a better person for you.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I think not that it matters too. But I think this may be one reason what my W moved and did not want me to know were she moved too. Also why she has not talked to most her friends for a long time like she is hiding.
But like you say does it matter. well to me i think it does
do i have more of a change of getting her back if she is with i Guy or a Girl.
even if i have done what i needed to for me and i am happy..
see this is how i think all the time and sometimes i wish i could just not think anymore.
I posted some amazing post from Sandi2 on my thread, take a look, it may help you.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
lostforever, if you read my sitch you will see that my W moved in with a friend (only friends for 4 months before BD) who is more than likely gay. Yes, my W may have changed and become gay, who knows. More than likely though, she has found someone who is not pressuring her, friendly, very happy and is probably supporting her with regards to the separation (not necessarily to my benefit). So really all my W has done is found someone who is helping her GAL. Anway, that is how I am looking at it until I ever find out differently. Note: My W didn't tell friends or family (apart from her Mum) who she moved in with. The W doesn't talk to friends as much as she did before BD. Everything she does is with the friend. W doesn't go on Facebook anywhere like she used to. My W also didn't take much of our belongings: her clothes, personal stuff, 1 set of sheets/blankets/pillows, photo albums (wedding and kids) and school stuff. She left all the kitchen stuff, blankets, sheets, linen and didn't take one piece of furniture or electrical. So I can only presume she is happy to use everything that the friend owns and has.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Ok so i guess morning are hard for me but once i get up i think im ok. im doing the best i can to not think about my W. NOT EASY.
Just now Im thinking should I disable Facebook account sometimes I say way to much and it seems im always down. W disabled her account a long time ago but im sure she can read what i say. I am sure it is not doing any good to help with my W.
It is just i talk to my step daughter sometimes on it but we also text too. What do you guys gals think. even if it is for a short time...
again the feeling of really just hiding from everyone. is all it is about. i told no one whats up with me moving and were i will be staying. but the ones that matter have my number. and if my W ever has the need to talk to me she knows mu number. I was going to even change that too. what do you guys gals think.
I would say yes to disabling FB. IMO it isn't helpful at all.
Not sure why you want to hide, other than to try and cause concern about your well being and hope that W will contact you or worry about you and that isn't what she needs, nor will it help.
I would not change number, just don't contact W. If she contacts you then you have a choice to contact her or NOT.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
