what I want is contingent upon H being fair. If the court intervenes I could walk away with even less,
You know, the sad truth is, you may be being unreasonable in your demands. Not unreasonable from a fairness standpoint - I get that- but unreasonable in terms of what you would be likely to get if you went to court. And this may be frustrating your attorney, if she knows that this is a good offer and you won't take it.
You will not get everything you want (no one does in divorce) and you will probably not have the same standard of living (no one does) and your H will probably not pay what you think he morally should (the laws don't work that way in our no-fault world).
So stop and think carefully - if two attorneys are telling you this is a reasonable settlement - it may be.
