WH, I'm really doing my homework this time and am going to do quite a few phone consultations before I pay for services. Thankfully, my parents will be paying the retainer. This is all upsetting and scary, but not as much as continuing with more of the same.
what I want is contingent upon H being fair. If the court intervenes I could walk away with even less,
You know, the sad truth is, you may be being unreasonable in your demands. Not unreasonable from a fairness standpoint - I get that- but unreasonable in terms of what you would be likely to get if you went to court. And this may be frustrating your attorney, if she knows that this is a good offer and you won't take it.
You will not get everything you want (no one does in divorce) and you will probably not have the same standard of living (no one does) and your H will probably not pay what you think he morally should (the laws don't work that way in our no-fault world).
So stop and think carefully - if two attorneys are telling you this is a reasonable settlement - it may be.
Portia, H does have a lawyer, but he seems entitled to mine as well. His latest email addressed both attorneys and ended with "both of you advise me on how to proceed." Apparently, because he has access to her via email it's the three of them against me. That's just delusional. I'm really frustrated that my attorney has not set a professional boundary regarding communication.
I absolutely agree. She should have simply referred the letter to his lawyer and said she would not be dealing with direct communication from H.
GM, I have read your posts to others. They have been wonderfully encouraging and full of good advice. You are doing very well in a tough, tough situation. I hope the other lawyer is a better fit.
And if you ever get the answer to why the MLCer can't just leave it at ILYB and bugger off, please let us know!
golf mom, just reading your thread. I just had the D talk with H. He says he wants to do what the kids needs, Am I just supposed to go to the table at this early stage and say ok because this may be the best I get? Does your H see the boys? I have asked my H to leave us alone for a bit, to give us "space" to process. I thought this might wake him up a bit to what D would look like. He's made no attempt to contact kids.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13