No, this feeling of "the last favor" is not normal. It took me a lot of thinking on the trip back home about how things played out this time. I usually am a helper by nature.
Now the whole reason that made me go was simply that she needed help and had no one locally to turn to. I couldn't say no, that would've been heartless and I know she has a lot on her plate with work and the kids. I'm just disappointed that she was so rash in making the decision to move when the home wasn't in a state that was move-ready. She made no preparations. It made it extremely difficult. She accused me of making poor decisions, sheesh! But I didn't bring this issue up because it was obvious and it wouldn't have helped our communication if I made the accusation.
I didn't verbalize anything because I knew this was going to be a stressful and strenuous visit and there was only one priority to tend to, and that was to get her stuff out of the old flat and clean it up for the next tenant.
She didn't verbalize specifics just of what needed to be done and that she trusted me to do what needed to be done while she was at work. We did pull an all-nighter getting stuff sorted before removing it and I thought we got along OK, but in the end, I think we just coexisted for the common goal.
Maybe "selfless" is the wrong word, but I just feel used right now. I've been sick since Wed and I didn't get any calls from her or my S. Since getting better, I tried to call the last 2 nights and she wasn't home. I got in touch with her last night and she was too busy to talk and sounded like I was bothering her. She didn't call back. This is why I'm ceasing my reaching out for now. I'm tired.
