A plan of action...vet advice needed

[SFC_Swede]

But a WAW does not seem to have the drive to save the M, where the LBS does.

I will get back to Swede in a minute, but wanted to inject this while it was fresh on the brain. As a WAW myself, I felt that I had worked very hard over the years to improve my M. In fact, I often felt I was the only one who was. I would always be the one to start a R talk (or talk about anything of any depth much), and I would try to tell my H what was lacking in the M and what I needed. But after so many years of not seeing any changes from him, I just started giving up (in a sense). I was depressed and lonely. My energy for the MR was pretty much shot.

I believe it's the "timing" of the WAW and LBH that is so off. By the time she's done and ready to walk away from the M, he gets his wakeup call. Her interest & energy is tanked, while his just starts.

So, it's not that she was never interested in working on the M, but she was interested when you weren't. Now, you are interested while she's not.

I too see this vividly clear now. Because the one thing she harped on me about, I disappointed her time and again. And everytime I broke that trust, I lost a piece of her until it finally snapped in April.

Then of course, I broke rules 1 through 16 and just made things worse. It took a month just for her to start talking to me again. I just get mixed signals...like when she invited me to go to the movies the other night...but otherwise, completely shut out emotionally and physically.

Thank you all agin for following my thread.