"If I took 6 months to go to Canada, it was because I was waiting for my papers. But I did say I wanted to delay going because I wanted to spend the summer on the beach, which I remember she took very bad. Instead of being happy for me.."
Imagine you and a partner took a job, one that you could not quit, and a life depended on you both doing this job well. and the job is extremely high pressure, and tedious, and stressful and exhausting. It's 24 hours a day, every day. the most break you get is 2 hours in a row, on a good day. as soon as you learn what you're doing, the job changes. and you're constantly being judged by everyone around you. there are no vacations, and the only break you get is when your partner works with you and lets you take one.
your partner then leaves you alone for 6 months, so you're doing this job all alone, even though the job description clearly states its a 2 person job. and because of your partner not working with you, eating a complete meal is nearly impossible, and you very rarely sleep through the night and its a great day if you can just take a shower.
and after all this, your partner, who you havent seen, who hasnt done any of the hard work for 6 months, who has been sleeping nights, and spending time with friends, and eating good meals, tells you that they're planning on taking the summer and spending it on the beach.
How would you feel? Whose feelings are justified? Who is exaggerating?
Bruce, until you truly understand what she went through in those 6 months, and how painful it must have been for her to hear you want to spend the summer at the beach. or how selfish you came across to her. and then to top it off that you were upset with her for not being happy for you. until you really understand that, i believe you wont be able fix anything with her.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
