Quote: We stopped at a restaurant and he said that he was doing this for me and to have the Rx filled the next day (that disturbs me kinda - shouldn't it be for him too?...I was stunned. I know that I am super sensitive to stuff like this but I was none too happy when he said that! I don't remember everything that was said - not too much at that moment - but I said a few minutes later that it was very important to me and didn't seem to be to him and he got quiet annoyed and said "here we go again with that cr*p."
Hmm, he is doing for you. Rem we only need 1 minute, the rest we do for you.
Quote: This Rx is supposed to be effective for 36 hours. Saturday morning he woke me up to ML. We ML 3 times Saturday and once Sunday morning. The sex was techically good - it almost always is - but it seems/feels to me that while he said it was great - it is not real passion like I used to get from him...It didn't really feel like duty sex but like he was doing it just for me - not something he was doing for himself
After the first one it was duty sex, in my case if I ML middle of the day, I got sore anchors.
Does that make sense to ya'll? Sunday morning he said "Is sex all you think about?" I told him I still felt like I was 20 years old and my sex drive had not changed.
Really, what about when the kids were small, and all the other activities that suck quality time. My X had a upswing from MD to HD in her early 40's.
How can I explain this to ya'll? I guess the difference was when HE felt passion for me I knew it. He couldn't keep his hands off of me before - now we ML but I felt like he was doing it for me - not for the sheer pleasure of ML. I do know that he enjoyed it - I made sure that I did all of the things that I know that HE likes but I just felt like his heart wasn't in it..... I guess my point is that you can take the Rx and get the physical response that it is designed to do but if the passion is not there there is an important element missing. I think that is where the testosterone comes it. I want him to WANT me like I want him - like he used to want me. The "I can't wait to get you alone" kind of want me.
2 thoughts here, one the testostorone and being alone.
TESTOSTORONE-I know my drive has drop, but as you have mentioned he seems a lot more sensitive to you. I feel emotions a lot stronger, and more aware of body languages and notice interactions of others.
EMPTY NEST-We all of a sudden had time by ourselves and found we did not have a lot in common any more. My low drive and her wanting to make out when we now had time went badly when I rejected her.
Quote: If I could give him an Rx that would bring back the passion I would give any amount of money for that...Poe, help me out here. Am I expecting too much too soon?..Neicie
AnitaSue's OM, took a herbal supplement daily and he was a sex maniac. Should be cheaper than an Rx. She loved it at first and then became tired of just sex.
My 2 cents, learn together by getting the audios, LOVE LANGUAGES, LOVE BANK CONCEPT, MUTUAL COMPROMISE, M/V on a date, and WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW by Barbara DeAngelo.
These gave me the most insight, of course the board filled in the gaps as to others who were in my same sith. Your sith closely matched my own, and gave me a clear understanding of how she felt. I completely understand why she left, and how she felt. I thank you for coming here, and if your H is willing this can be work out
