A plan of action...vet advice needed

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Sandi2 & LTH, my WAW / MLC wife is this exact way, and i feel the changes I am making are irritating for her, although they are making me a better person, she does keep saying 'why now after this time' or 'you never did before why bother'. I also am finding that she lets her true colours slip occasionally and says some horrid things - quite personal insults that she would never have thought to say or believed before, almost as if her new OM is being held as an example of what she 'really' wanted all these years, and I am a reject or a prototype that went wrong.

So my question is, apart from changes that are permanent, and apart from patience (which is getting a little thin on the ground), do we just sit back and get on with life and hope for the best that we are the lucky ones that have a W that realises what she is doing, that she does not want this new life after all?

I have not been on here for over a week now as I am beginning to give up, just want to get it over and done with and move on, as after all there is only so much a LBS can take - and yes I understand that this is exactly how a WAW must feel too. But a WAW does not seem to have the drive to save the M, where the LBS does.

Sorry for hijacking and ranting!