It isn't easy. It is very taxing and emotionally overwhelming. But you need to do what is right for you and the kids. Your H will be mad, but that's okay. If it wasn't this, he would be mad about something else. No matter what you do, he will be mad. You could do everything his way and he would still be mad. They are like children. You give an inch, they take a mile.
I plan on making an iron clad agreement that H cannot manipulate in any way, shape or form. I made the decision. Do I want to fight now or later, because in one way or another there will be a fight and I decided to head H off at the pass. He hates me for it, but I don't care.
Our H's don't care about what happens to us financially although my H claims he still wants to "make sure I am taken care of". No thanks! I had enough of your financial disaster when we were married. I'll take care of my own self. I will be far better off.
Take care of YOU! You can't take care of those kids until you take care of yourself. Put your oxygen mask on first.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
