Ok, I am trying to get up to speed on your sitch, but you have so many threads and I don't really see too much of a history yet. I gather some from your sig, I'm going to ask a few questions.

What is your goal at this point?

What boundaries have you set in your R with H?

What are your 180s?

What are your GALS?

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D