I'm not trying to trivialize anything. Your feelings are just as valid and important as your husbands. I never said they were not. I am just saying that the comparison that you are trying to make is not a very good one. You are trying to compare apples to zebras.
"Now, if I accept that what my H is feeling is valid, deep, complex and important TO HIM, I don't have to understand it, I don't have to have a similar feeling. I just have to respect it. I have to honor it because HE and HIS feelings are important to ME. Passionately important.
So step off, Meat. You can compare this to the nth degree all you want, and YOU will be missing my point to begin with. It's about respecting and about honoring another for who and what they are, not making them understand and think like yourself because what you think and feel is more valid and you can prove that."
I completely agree. And again, I am not saying anyone's feelings are anymore valid than anyone else's. I am just saying that you are trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
