You did it again, Meat. You once again trivialized my feelings by saying, yet again, that your need for ML is much more complex, much deeper than anything I could be feeling that does not relate to sex.
We have different love languages, but one language is not more valid or more appropriate than the other. They are simply different. You may think you understand the depth of my feelings, or the complexity of my feelings, but clearly, you don't.
You are correct when you say that I truly do not understand the depth or the complexities of what ML really means to my H. Damn straight I don't, that's why I am here. And you know what? I'm not all that concerned anymore that I ever get to that understanding because I have found that my understanding of something doesn't make it any more or any less true. It means I don't get it. Just like I don't get atoms. I can't see them, smell them, taste them, touch them or hear them. I can't fathom somthing that small running the show. But just because I can't 'get' that doesn't make it any less true.
Now, if I accept that what my H is feeling is valid, deep, complex and important TO HIM, I don't have to understand it, I don't have to have a similar feeling. I just have to respect it. I have to honor it because HE and HIS feelings are important to ME. Passionately important.
So step off, Meat. You can compare this to the nth degree all you want, and YOU will be missing my point to begin with. It's about respecting and about honoring another for who and what they are, not making them understand and think like yourself because what you think and feel is more valid and you can prove that.
