One more thing, and I am certainly not defending your husband's behaviour, but it is very difficult for an HD person to really "get into" non-sexual aspects of the marriage when the mutual sexual aspect is missing. I struggle with this all the time. It is like you are surrounded by crackers and you see this nice, sweet piece of chocholate cake. After months and months of eating crackers that piece of cake is the only think you can think about. Even if you dress up the crackers in cheese, or peanutbutter, or fruit, or anything else, it is still crackers, and you are pretty G0dd@mn sick of crackers.
I am not saying it is right, I am just saying it is the way it is and your husband needs to be aware of what he is doing.
